What you did wrong was allow his behavior in the first place. Copyright 1997-2022 LoveShack.org. I do not like for my ex to call me that and I have asked him not to. Hearts and Lattes. I guess he is married to her. I'm still in love with my kids mom. My Husband and I have been married since 2008. If I'd wanted kids I would have had my own. However, when a strange man calls you baby, it can be just plain creepy. It was a hot mess but I made sure he heard my take on all this because he barely spend s time with his kids and I dont nag him about it kids will learn one way or the other who their parent is down the line but Im just so fed up I dont know if all this has to do with the stupidness that happen because if it does its so ridicuous all because hes married. We and our partners use data for Personalised ads and content, ad and content measurement, audience insights and product development. Yes theyre are always memories and depending on how long ya have been together. No, you got him temporarily, when he feels like it. So last night I had texted my boyfriend something really nice a memory and such. Are you living with him nope. I don't feel it is love, but rather caring. I know I try but the shit she says sounds believable..they were together for 8 year there son is 3 I think deep down he still has feelings for her (even tho he talks bad about her ) and now we have a kid together..I think it's the same thing all over again. I'm with them on that one as well. If she starts to degrade you and get out of hand tell her exactly how you feel sternly, because she will try to degrade you sooner or later due to jealousy. Know your worth. Stepmother Calls Fixer, He Fucks Mommy Hard. Sad, but true. Please dont bash a real woman for what im about to write. In the end the now wife told her that she was just 'keeping the bed warm', while she wasn't there. I was on and off with my sons mother for years after he was born. Answer (1 of 5): I would get rid of this guy if I were you,it sounds like he wants to get you pregnant and then split. Trust, If you truly love this dude then talk to your bd in private about the kids Men are very territorial and regardless if a woman has a bd or not they dont like other men talking to their women. If your boyfriend is talking to his baby mama everyday, there is the obvious concern that he's still involved with her in some way. Where do you fit into this mess? He began cheating. And stupid me did everything she asked. My son and his father broke up about two montha ago but about a month ago we started hanging out.I think he started to miss us. anyways I'm 100% wanting to get back together with him and I ask him well are we gonna be together now because your the only person is want to be with and he responds "we'll see" like what does that even mean. and I'm the one the broke up with him in the first place. For instance, I came across a woman sharing her concernsaboutthe mother of her boyfriends child calling, texting and even showing up at his home at all times of the night: I am currently in a relationship with a guy who has broken up with his babys mother. I feel a baby mama should be treated like any ex. I ignored her text and sent him an email with the screenshot of her text and asked if he could kindly ask her not to text me. What do i do?.over the last year or so I thought there was some fire again as we were acting like the old days. If the relationship was toxic then this is how it can affect you. Thats a huge ass grey area because if you had love for your ex just because, he wouldnt date you. If he does call you mama because he wants to be more than just friends with you then it would be likely that hed show signs of liking you such as those above when he is around you. In order to . I have been trying to help him with rides so he can get steady work and help me financially and just for hisself also. He stays in frequent contact with her. And i always gave in because i love him. She is married now and I can say for a fact I'm still madly in love with her. Tell him to make her stop or send him right back to her if its so hard for him to set things straight and make her understand that he is with someone else so she should go on with her life too. Put a stop to it now or you will regret ityou are NOT obliged to deal with this nonsense. I hate it. Step 1. Honestly, I haven't been happy for the past 3 years deep down because i know this other woman will forever be in his life. I'm so sorry. He may be meaning something more than he likes you by saying it, youre going to have to ask him what exactly he means. Do they see you as a new dad or one of mommy 's new uncles? LOL.that story was such a pity seeking blob of bullsh*t. Nice try. These baby mothers have children and teach those children how to be a worthless waste of skin too! The love of your life is still sleeping with his Baby Mama. That would be a dealbreaker for me. Sorry for cursing. Any advice or comments? Strangely enough, I think it's easier for women to get over the father of their kids than for men to get over a babymama. 3 years later later I still think about what I coulda done better. Home; Videos; Categories; Webcams; Boyfriend Calls Me Mommy. She's expected to be a nun. She knows all about me and I know all about her but we never met in person and when I tried to reach out to her myself she told my bf that I messaged her .. she blocked me too. Because no matter who he or I wind up with, they will have to know that we are bonded for life. Females would be like, "You the one?" Now he goes out at night with this girl and in his phone talking to 3 more . Well yeah. The consent submitted will only be used for data processing originating from this website. Anyway I was ready to walk I don't want that in my life or to be a second to no one. If my ex was serious about her even if he cheated on me with her, for our son I would be fine with meeting her. And, if you dont like him using it as your pet name, you should also speak up and say something and Im sure hell stop. Question for the men. 8 mths later domestic violence charge. My boyfriend cannot put boundaries with his baby mama, she calls whenever she likes, he cannot answer her calls in front of me, I found him sending pictures of his late mother to her with crying emojis..this is disturbing but I dont think I'm ready to accept that he is not ready to put me first and our relationship. Doesn't mean they are not over their ex. He doesn't hate me we actually have a good relationship , and it's not because of our daughter it's just the way we are with each other even before we had her. I had just had a baby, so with the follow up appointments, we knew nothing was wrong with me, so he had to confess he crept around. She's been beating him for something like 8 years now. Hes not a bad guy to be honest but something is off. The day after that, he had her bringing him to my subdivision. I can relate! I doubt he is married since op has met his family, but it also makes it unlikely that he is in an open relationship with baby momma. Said my mind's gone half crazy (Yeah) 'cause I can't leave you alone (And I just don't know) And I'm wonderin' if it's worth me holdin' on (I said I just don't know what to do now . If he doesnt, it sounds like a continuous headache waiting to happen for the woman I know, who really deserves better. They were both grown already but it still caused issues. I thought we moved on with our lives, so then he calls me every three months, getting upset. However, if he begins to act in strange ways in any situation that involves his baby mama, you might need to pay attention to any red flag his actions portray. He called too and they were clearly fighting in the background. Im gone. I was with mine for over 5 years and I wound up going to prison for 11 months! Anyway he was hiding her they where going out to dinner together and the kids and I noticed the biggest diff when he was talking to her on a daily and he started doing way more then he ever did for them he ain't even do more for the other two he had with other ppl. Boyfriend talks about his baby mama EVERY DAY. How many people have you slept with in your life?? I don't have the effort to try again atleast for now . But I do believe that these types of relationships can work just fine if the person you date creates boundaries with their co-parent. Why do u think he's doing this family thing all of a sudden. He introduced her as his fiancee. Its his way of saying hes committed to you. But to sum it all up. No. Laninaconfusa 2 yr. ago. The soundtrack album for the show is a combination of both original songs by the characters in the show, songs by popular R&B music artists such as Alicia Keys, India.Arie, and Solange & Destiny's Child (who perform the theme song), and classic soul music from artists such as Aretha Franklin and the O'Jays.. Track listing "The Proud Family Theme Song" - Solange & Destiny's Child He was abusive during my pregnancy. At the end of the day, he is obviously not happy but he does not love you anymore than he loves her. I will always care/love him because he is my daughters father and that's it. I'm in this same situation. As a woman who didn't want a child, yet you are sleeping with random men-you had the choice of birth control OR not to sleep with a man you werent in a committed relationship with. +1 y. I have happily moved on with my life. You can just tell that he's not over her. No need to take it personally. Just talk to him and try to get to the root of the issue with some kind of idea of the pressures of his day to day life. Is it meet ups? I can only help him so much. 265 views, 5 likes, 10 loves, 28 comments, 2 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Bethel AME Church: Bethel AME Church was live. It's not about how we feel about eachother. No. i think they are still talking behind my back. Dont get me wrong the thought of another man raising your child partially is frustrating because even if you know how you would be as a step father , you know deep down that hell never love your daughter the way you do, maybe not at all. In fact, he just called me at 3 a.m. (with a female in the back) asking me to save the time and date. Ive been with a couple girls intimately but pales in comparison to her. He hasn't seen our daughter since I found out the reason why he left. Am I wrong to feel that way? I mean it's obvious to me, he's using you both. However, you be heard far too many stories like this were the baby's mom uses the baby to keep a guy trapped in a relationship or to force him back. Whereas, if he only calls you mama and he shows different behavior and body language around you then it would be more likely that he is attracted to you. Yes!! I think men will always have a special place for their BM like a respect factor for the mother of their kids. I would have been better for my son. Hell I even take care of the 2 kids she had wit my alleged friend! The thought of wishing it would work out in the future? He said, "You don't want to keep it no way. I have not a drop of ANY type of feelings for him! He hasn't been working and has no car and all this stuff and is on my phone plan from living with me, and I let him keep it because it is important that I can communicate for our child. And she has additional four other children with three different baby daddy's. The same situation I was in She believed every lie he told her. Having baby after baby in a fatherless household will keep a poor woman poor. These things are complicated and painful, and I will get over it eventually and find someone that matches me more and treats me better, but I wasted a lot of time and she probably has too because he doesn't love her still (he doesn't love himself and has deeper issues). Should i be worried? What does it take to stop running into these types of people? She needs to move on.. I couldn't think of anything worse than getting back with my ex, even the thought of sex with them again repulses me, but I love my kids and deeply care about their other parent who gave me my children.. No other feelings left there. We and our partners use cookies to Store and/or access information on a device. Ask yourself these questions first: 6. A few of the signs to look out for that might confirm - or help deny - this are: He's always the one that initiates contact with her or he's always the one replying first. Wake up he's married with kids PERIOD! It's pretty ****in annoying to b honest like I don't have nothing against the kid but my chest hurts everytime I see him granted he had a lot of kids I was looking forward to having his first son of anything! I get along with her to show my son the right way to treat females. To try to sum up what could be a culmination of mixed emotions may be impossible but you have to build that bridge to get across. The SSL certificate presented by the server did not pass validation. He tried to eat the bathtub But it wouldn't go down his throat. Hey everyone I am confused and I like for someone guy or Girl to give me feedback please I will try to be brief but it will be hard. No. He's not a very social person through text so we really don't talk as often as I would like. Our biggest issue is that he's allergic to my cat. The FaceTime he says Hi and bye and nothing more. But she had issues and would call all the time, didn't have any "friends", and had a hard life and slowly they became friends which I was against because I knew she wanted to be with him. when a man have a kid (s) with his ex (s) they are a package deal.if u want to be with him, u have to be supportive n understanding and don't stress him out cuz he is not giving u enough time.this can lead to fights n eventually a break up. My boyfriend has 2 baby mommas! AskMen Reader. It was a boy; he text me the pics. Have a talk with him and get him to talk to her about her calling all hours of the day and night as if they are still together. I'm not no saint but I've never cheated! Meaning we did not concentrate on ourselves but always put them first. Your the secret woman that no one knows about. He is actually saying you are "his girl". The mother of his son tends to call at the worst times, and even sends him messages late at night on occasion. I am well educated with four children by my ex husband. if u want to stay then this is ur life if u decide to marry him one day. Ask Your Question Fast! Try this scenario on for size, My husbands son came over for his weekend with us, were all sitting down trying to pick a movie for a movie night & my husband suggests that BFG movie, said he hadn't seen it & it looked good, we had just realised We couldn't hire it yet because it was still in the cinemas when his 6 year old son says "I saw that movie with my mummy & daddy at the movies" his dad said no no no he's mistaken he's mistaken, but his son kept insisting, he finally confessed that they went to the movies together when I was at work, after some heated discussion he admitted that sometimes he goes to her house on his days off & spends sometimes, I later discovered that he had spent the day there while the kid was at school as well, I already knew that communicated almost daily on the phone by text or phone call, but visiting? How am I suppose to feel about that? I felt bad because in that moment she realized that I'm not the monster he painted me out to be. On another note, my bd cheated and had a bust-it-baby at the end of our relationship. Never belittled her! I tried for six years to be with my sons father. I do feel you on this situation. The truth is, there is no way to ever truly know the heart of a man. I thought we could come to a mutual agreement for the child. He admits to getting me pregnant on purpose, thinking we were going to be together. I think people often underestimate how big of a deal it really is to have a child with someone especially if you have that child with someone you dont plan on staying in a romantic relationship with. I do love him, I have met his family and they are really nice and caring towards me. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); My Boyfriend Calls Me His Baby Mama Is This Normal? duckling. Whenever you get called mom, guy's are insinuating that you're treating them like their mom does. I realized that any anger a guy shows towards his child's mother is lost love a feeling of betrayal because he once loved her, it's best to foster love and respect for each other though regardless. Question similar to this, my partner and I have been together for over a year, I fit the role of step father for her daughter (clothe, food, bills, school runs, fun stuff etc.). Your raising a boy who will grow up to be a man and he needs to know and see how a REAL man handles his business. This is one of the reasons why the economy *****. so yeah I'll just do what I gotta do . The term "mama's boy" is often used as slang to describe a man who has an unhealthy dependence on his mother well into adulthood when he is expected to be independent and self-reliant . I assume the alleged ex is not a U.S. citizen or permanent resident? "Right now yea. So hard to want to date. What do you do when your boyfriend dont defend you to his baby mama. The Mother and the child are coming from Honduras and so they have to stay with him in his house because they have no where to go. I said it bum to the max. I still loved her and had done for the 2 years we have been apart that was until i got her a mobile from work and changed her phone data over to another mobile.i found hook up messages from locals today. I'm sure one of the other women he's messaging will take him in. Yeap! My bd used to make females think I was this horrible monster because he was locked up due to putting his hands on me at 8 months pregnant. Another less likely option is that it is a new term to him and he didn't quite . I wasn't a great boyfriend for 6 yrs and then we had a child. But hes not all to blame i take full responsibility for the desaster i made of my life. I found this post as I was looking to try and understand why my ex baby daddy was texting me that he wanted to get back together when he's in a relationship and to my knowledge has been in a relationship with the girl he cheatred on me with. Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. Isn't it kind of selfish to date someone when you feel this way? In the end, our relationship suffered because I allowed too much lee-way. This dude barely ever get dressed not even for me. I know you want this guy but if you put up with this your end up hurt in the end. DO NOT GIVE HIM WHAT HE WANTS! Its been almost 3yrs and i still havent met my boyfriends BM. If you see him often and youre trying to understand the way that he feels about you then it would be helpful to compare the way that he interacts with you with the way that he interacts with others. He didn't want to end the relationship and it's possible that he wishes he could rekindle it. The baby was born 2 days b4 his bday which is 2 days b4 mine. Just thinking about dating someone like you, hurts my heart. I'm basically in the same situation. So that happend a month later he FaceTimes me I pick up he says he just wanted to see me. We had ALOT of attraction and chemistry, but absolutely no compatability. Never ever mate a ex is a ex and that's where they belong I look forward to meeting my new fresh man and new future. Apparently he travels a lot working, leaving little time for him to spend with his son. To view the purposes they believe they have legitimate interest for, or to object to this data processing use the vendor list link below. We had such an amazing time , I felt loved , I felt good , I felt like this was finally coming together . Unless you a have a child. We broke up 3 months ago our son is 8 months and I caught him in our bed with another woman only days after we broke up. Im asking because my bf has a child and the bm comes with all sorts of drama. cuz u know u have to deal with the drama that his baby mama will cuz. The dude is completely depraved and behaves like an irresponsible teenager when in reality he's a man in his 50's who refuses acknowledgement of his daughter. 1. I changed the locks on our apartment and took him to child support for our then, 4 month old daughter. The only thing I want is for him is to always have that daughter father bond. Fast forward, this dude has a lot of issues, and he done had woman after woman since knowing him. Or maybe hes been engaging in inappropriate behavior with the mother of his child on the low and thats why hes hesitant to let her know shes doing the absolute most. And if it's the other way around then I definitely wouldn't be worried about it bc if they still wanted your current bf/gf then they wouldn't have left them! The fact that a woman would give you her all, only for you to throw it away if the baby mama so much as wishes it.rather than feeling sorry for these future women.correct your issues before involving them. My boyfriend cheated on me with his baby mama and now she is pregnant but I still love him HELP!! But that's after his mom died and even though I even wiped her when she peed herself fed her slept on the floor with him for the whole 30 days in the hospital I caught a attitude cuz he yelled at me and I said some shit to the extent in the argument that I'd go get some bomb ass dick. Use that logic to find someone dope and with no baggage. Bf's baby mama wants him back and she's trying all the means to get him back. Then I caught her lying about seeing 2 other guys. By continuing to use this site, you agree to our updated Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. Where's that ring? It's amazing that in todays day and age 2014 girls are still falling for this scam (he's making a fool of you using you abusing you and your blaming his wife)! So, do I have "drama" - yup! He told me on Saturday after I took him home on FaceTime that he got his baby mama pregnant in January! 13years in and I never betrayed his trust! The reality is you can do better. He was selfish and mean and I felt so alone but i just wanted my son to have his father and I knew he wouldn't be around unless I took care of him. MadameNoire is a sophisticated lifestyle publication that gives African-American women the latest in fashion trends, I cant, so for that being said. Doesn't matter whether she's crazy or not. Is okay so recently he told the kids he would take them to the movies but he never asked the kids what type of movie they wanted to see he bought the tickets and our kids paid no mind to the fact that they didnt know what movie they were going to see until they got to the theatre so when they get there he has a fit because his wife his wifes kids who are his step kids they dont have kids of their own made decision to watch a movie that they all agree on I guess while our kids whom he made plans with were not in on this movie decision making. I am having the same issue with my bf, where he is hiding everything from me, saying he loves me but then turning around and telling her he misses her etc. Heres How to Tell Your Roommate to Clean the Bathroom! Who knows what'll happen." i ahte when they text late at night or just text when its not about the kid. I, however, am the nickname type. Happily with someone else. 3. He won't until he's ready. I feel like I am [his second choice] but he tells me that he loves me and that I'm his one and only. seek information on a wide variety of topics including African-American hair care, health issues, relationship The thought of my daughter being parented by another man rips me apart inside and its always been very hard for me to cope with. It is really not the most common term of endearment, but calling someone "baby mama" or "baby daddy" is a pet name of sorts. Don't take all that **** about he don't want to **** her off because he really should be worried about your feelings first then hers for his kids sake. Press Esc to cancel. As a step mom I believe it is my duty to take his kids in like my own. I have been off and on with my child's father for 11 years, we were married for 2.5 and really did love each other, but when we got divorced he got a groupie girl (she has been hanging on him in the background and hoping to be with him for years) pregnant but didn't want to be with her. Know who's talking to whom when. Married men especially from Africa and South America with girlfriends here. Easier said than done. I like hearing about them. If you would like to change your settings or withdraw consent at any time, the link to do so is in our privacy policy accessible from our home page.. Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy might call you mama and the body language signals that you can expect to see with them. Of course she thinks he was single and I made the mistake of contacting her after I found out about his cheating but naturally she believes him. i think i made the right choice. Man its like your the othe man in my situation except I don't talk bad about my sons mother, I disagree with mossgard. They probably do still have soemthing going on. It's like they always have this secret love and "appreciation" for the fact that she birthed his kid(s). He compares me to her sometimes. But he's careless . If she's an ex really, why would he care how she reacts? If she's here on a fiancee visa, they will have to marry within 90 days or she has to go back home. His mom and I were cool until he told me she was talking bad about me and when I asked her she said he told her i didn't want to talk to her and eventually the drama he created was too much and at the end of the day she is his mom and will side with him. Originally Posted by RoyalDanceQueen View Post, My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now, he has a child with his ex but he told me their relationship ended long time ago. She says she will always love me no matter what but she never admits anything even when I came to get my son and a random guy is in her house with his shirt off walking out the bedroom. I would not continue this relationship. Some of our partners may process your data as a part of their legitimate business interest without asking for consent. Two months ago, he called finally saying he wanted me to meet someone. My boyfriend and I've been together for a year now, I dnt have any problem with him having kids. If he is tripping a lot, he's probably still screwing her. Baby mom's are psychotic, that is my conclusion after my hellish weekend due to my own drama. Maybe he wants that attention and your attention. We only contact through a talking portal online, where everything is recorded for the judge. patito. The thing I do not understand is we have two son's together but he acts like I do not exist. My boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me a Can my boyfriend still love his baby mama? We were engaged and everything, so surely I don't deserve that title. My daughter has never been without. Can a 40 year old woman date a 23 year old guy? No body is perfect so you cannot blame people for that. Additional troubleshooting information here. The mother and child could not come here without a sponsor. True. He also told me at the beginning of February that he didn't want to have another kid, which was a deal breaker for me when we started dating because he knew I wanted more, but that he couldn't take care of the ones he has so this was why he changed his mind. The ex wife kept bothering him with insignificant things. I don't love my son's mom anymore. As we're in Miami , a friend hits me up and ask if I was still dealing with the guy and if I'm pregnant . Most of the time when a guy calls you Mama it is coming from a romantic place. My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years now and I like to think we have a strong relationship. And let me tell you, before my time expired at the job he used to stalk me daily. I'll remove myself because he already blames me he can't be with anyone because I'll always try with him . If he did call you mama because he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction in his body language and behavior which could include: There are more signs of attraction that a guy might show you that get talked about, in an ebook, here. When he throws a new one at me, I tell him "She's not the one. But its really hard. 9. The reason that he called you mama could be that he wanted to see how you would react. and 2. he's never called me that before. I don't what his problem is. He said he didn't know how to , but he was gonna tell me , he had to tell me. I'm dealing with the same thing and I wonder would he ever get back with her even though we have a child together now. Long story short I have done everything in my power to get this woman back! She reply saying okay was just giving you the heads up or I think I dropped the tea. Now she pushed me away pissing me off, they now act like best friends. I don't even know what to do about it anymore. not every man will always love his baby momma. I feel bad for you..my boyfriend was doing this..he would go shopping with them his ex and 7 yr old..go to all the school functions and never invite me..we were together 4 years and im sure he did it more than i knew..on the 5th year he was with her more ..after 7mos of the constant lies and telling me i was crazy for thinking he was messing around..the ex calls me..she tells me they have been out together and "tried having sex" but never did..so he wanted to be w me in the end.n i felt like ha **** he chose me!
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